Giving Children a Voice in Family Disputes
When parents separate, it’s not just the adults who are affected; children often find themselves caught in the emotional crossfire or confusion.
Child-Inclusive Mediation provides a way for your child or children to express their emotions, thoughts, and even to make suggestions, regarding the situation.
It is important that they don’t bear the burden of decision-making or be placed in a position where they must choose between their parents. But it can also be really helpful for the child to know that they have been heard by the parents.
Child-Inclusive Mediation can offer a safe and supportive way for the child to express their feelings, thoughts, and concerns, or to raise questions.
Where a child is generally 10 years old or above, it is possible for them to meet with a child inclusive mediator or consultant, and to agree what information is fed back to mum or dad or carers. They can take the opportunity to share their perspectives and emotions about the situation.
The aim is not to burden the children with decision-making, but to empower them by giving them a voice in matters that affect their lives.
The Process of Child-Inclusive Mediation:
Child-Inclusive Mediation involves a trained child inclusive mediator or consultant who acts as a bridge between the child and the parents. Here’s an overview of the process:
- Child Consultation: The mediator or consultant meets separately with the child or children to have an open and confidential conversation. They listen to the child’s thoughts, feelings, and concerns.
- Feedback Session: With the child’s consent, the mediator or child consultant shares the child’s perspectives with the parents during the mediation sessions. This information can help parents better understand their child’s needs and feelings.
Informed Decision-Making: Armed with a deeper understanding of their child’s viewpoint, parents can make more informed decisions about child arrangements and co parenting that prioritize the child’s best interests.
Ruth Hawkins, Founding Partner