Family Mediation is a process where a neutral third party, known as a mediator, holds discussions between separating parties to help them make decisions, and help to find solutions.
Using a mediator is different to using a lawyer. Separating (or separated) couples or parents can choose to use a mediator to help them find solutions and to assist in reaching agreements about their finances and/or their children, and to find a clear and constructive way forward.
Family mediation is an excellent way of helping couples resolve issues that arise as a result of the breakdown of a relationship. Couples meet with a mediator, and try to resolve any issues, with the mediator acting as a facilitator, in a safe and supportive, structured and neutral environment.
Mediation keeps decision-making in your hands. This is especially important in cases involving children. Parents know their children best and are generally best placed to make decisions for them.
Mediation can take place in person, with everyone in the same room, in different rooms (shuttle mediation) or remotely. Mediation is a cost-effective way of avoiding the stress, delay and cost of going to court.
A mediator cannot give advice and will usually recommend that you take legal advice alongside mediation, certainly at key points in the process.
It is also possible to include third parties such as financial or pensions advisors, counsellors, or even lawyers in the process, providing everyone agrees.
Ruth Hawkins is now qualified as a Child Inclusive Mediator, which means she can meet with the children directly, and allow their voices to be heard by their parents through the mediation process.